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Post by swtbbyblueeyes on May 10, 2005 14:22:44 GMT -5
Theres a lot of people out there that think, in order for a child to grow up and not be messed up emotionally that he/she has to have 2 parents, i get critized b/c im a single parent. the first thing people always say to me is, what did you do to him to make him leave.... so im sitting there like, what makes you think that i did anything, ya know, and what makes everyone think i wanted to keep him around. I think that being a mother and father both for your child does make them respect you much more to see what you have to do to take care of them. And of course you always have those dead beat moms and dads that don't want to take care of their child. But being a parent is better than anything you could ever imagine!!
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Post by PapaEZRA on May 28, 2005 1:54:22 GMT -5
It is possible for just one parent to raise a child but never the less it is better to have both. That is how the good lord intended it. Although I know it is just not possible to always have that. I give my respect to all single mothers out there tying to raise a child or children on their own. I was one of the children once before. I was on both sides of that fence because I was blessed with a stepfather. I do believe that with two parents a child gets what they need from both, but with just one the child will have to find that part that is missing somewhere else. And that is not always a good thing.
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Post by jennainlove on May 29, 2005 21:06:39 GMT -5
I have views, first hand, on this subject. I am now what everyone would refer to as a single mother. I have only recently left my childs dad. Right now I believe that it would be for the best if I were able to find a man who could not only love me, but love my child like his own. I dont believe it would be easy to raise my son alone.... He definatley needs that male role model. As much as I could try, I could never give him the devlopmental needs that a growing boy needs. So therefor I strongly believe that a child needs both a mother and a father figure in there life, even if it has to be a step-parent situation. Children need interaction with both sexes to really learn the different things that only one sex or the other has to offer. Also I would have to agree with blue eyes that being a mother is the most wonderful thing to me, I feel like my son completes my life, and I hope that down the road, when I find the real "Mr. Right" that I may have more children!
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Post by MrBen on May 30, 2005 7:04:23 GMT -5
Here's just a stream of consciousness on this thought: I bet being both roles could more command respect, but I think it really comes from the sacrifice than the being mom and dad. And such sacrifice can be made whether a single mom or not. As for myself, my repsect for my mom was grew greatly because of the sacrifices she made for me. Instense stuff. Woman with a lion's heart and a strong good-perspective. But I aslo agree with jenn. Waiting for the "real 'Mr. Right'" is important. As best as I can tell, both genders are best but the wrong guy can be destructive to your efforts to raise 'em right. Whether its directly (abuse) or indirectly (poor example).
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Post by PapaEZRA on May 30, 2005 10:01:06 GMT -5
I must be Invisible in this post or something.
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