Post by PapaEZRA on Apr 27, 2005 8:00:39 GMT -5
Ok guys listen up here is some pearls of wisdom I have gathered from my experiences:
For those of you men that think you understand women or are striving to do so, let me tell you that you are just plain stupid. First of all we are not meant to understand them. And they don't understand us. But let me tell you a few things I learned in a failed marriage.
Women work through there problems with emotions. Women have lots of these. How many times have you seen a woman start cry out of the middle of no where and you just can't seem to understand why? Well guess what you are not meant to understand. At this time you are to just hold her and not say a dame thing. Men understand that we cause or own problems. We do not know when to shut up. If you say the wrong thing (and you will) you will dig a hole what she will remember for years. Women are vindictive. DUH!!
Ok I will give and example:
You woman comes home from work and it is obvious that she had a bad day. It would be wrong to ask her what’s for supper when she comes in the door, especially if you been home all day sitting in front of the TV drinking beer sense 8am. When she has a bad day and you know it don’t think she is just going to tell you. Women don't do that. They need to know CONSTANTLY that you are thinking about them. And you do this by noticing that she has something wrong. Yes, I know it sucks and seems near impossible to do but I work in a prison and I now can tell something is wrong with people by the way they walk talk or even get out of bed. I am getting good. It talks practice. But, when you notice this you ask her if something is wrong and if she wants to talk about it. She will turn you down because she sees it as her problem not yours or a joint problem. Her problems have to be yours. You have a joint effort here. Then you give her all of your attention. Take her to the bedroom and sit down and ask her to talk to you. She will in time. Give her time. She has to think through it. Then when she starts talking you as the man SHUT UP!!! Don't say anything just listen. 9 times out of 10 she will fix her own problem, they just need us as back up and a shoulder to cry on. If she does ask you a question then by all means answer but make it a positive answer. If she asks for your thoughts on how to fix the problem have her say a few of her own and then you pick the best one and tell her you think it is the best plain. This way she did fix it herself and you being the wonderful man she married just backed her up on her choice. You being the wonderful man now will get one of men’s basic needs, SEX. But know you getting this because you opened yourself to her and made her fall in love with you again just because you listened to her. And to tell you the truth that is all they want. Now men you can't understand women because we have three emotions and we don’t fix problems with emotions. They run off our back like water on a duck. How many men have got into a fight with a guy and the next day they are best friends? You see women can't understand that. But they accept it as we should just accept them in the way they are. Men remove head from the sixth point of contact and grow up. Your women need you. Despite what they say.
For those of you men that think you understand women or are striving to do so, let me tell you that you are just plain stupid. First of all we are not meant to understand them. And they don't understand us. But let me tell you a few things I learned in a failed marriage.
Women work through there problems with emotions. Women have lots of these. How many times have you seen a woman start cry out of the middle of no where and you just can't seem to understand why? Well guess what you are not meant to understand. At this time you are to just hold her and not say a dame thing. Men understand that we cause or own problems. We do not know when to shut up. If you say the wrong thing (and you will) you will dig a hole what she will remember for years. Women are vindictive. DUH!!
Ok I will give and example:
You woman comes home from work and it is obvious that she had a bad day. It would be wrong to ask her what’s for supper when she comes in the door, especially if you been home all day sitting in front of the TV drinking beer sense 8am. When she has a bad day and you know it don’t think she is just going to tell you. Women don't do that. They need to know CONSTANTLY that you are thinking about them. And you do this by noticing that she has something wrong. Yes, I know it sucks and seems near impossible to do but I work in a prison and I now can tell something is wrong with people by the way they walk talk or even get out of bed. I am getting good. It talks practice. But, when you notice this you ask her if something is wrong and if she wants to talk about it. She will turn you down because she sees it as her problem not yours or a joint problem. Her problems have to be yours. You have a joint effort here. Then you give her all of your attention. Take her to the bedroom and sit down and ask her to talk to you. She will in time. Give her time. She has to think through it. Then when she starts talking you as the man SHUT UP!!! Don't say anything just listen. 9 times out of 10 she will fix her own problem, they just need us as back up and a shoulder to cry on. If she does ask you a question then by all means answer but make it a positive answer. If she asks for your thoughts on how to fix the problem have her say a few of her own and then you pick the best one and tell her you think it is the best plain. This way she did fix it herself and you being the wonderful man she married just backed her up on her choice. You being the wonderful man now will get one of men’s basic needs, SEX. But know you getting this because you opened yourself to her and made her fall in love with you again just because you listened to her. And to tell you the truth that is all they want. Now men you can't understand women because we have three emotions and we don’t fix problems with emotions. They run off our back like water on a duck. How many men have got into a fight with a guy and the next day they are best friends? You see women can't understand that. But they accept it as we should just accept them in the way they are. Men remove head from the sixth point of contact and grow up. Your women need you. Despite what they say.